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Episode 166-Objective Setting & Overcoming Obstacles Starter Equipment


Obstacles can turn out to be stepping stones to your goals!
On this podcast I’ll focus on; Why individuals keep away from setting objectives or give up, the position of goals, coping with the impediment you understand…and the obstacles you don’t.
As a bonus, I additionally share tips on how to make extra theoretical the objective’s like ‘acquire confidence’ into actionable, measurable steps.
If you’re able to take constant steps in the direction of your dream, go obtain the free workbook and PDF that go together with this and get began right now!

Episode 166-Objective Setting & Overcoming Obstacles Starter Equipment.mp3
Stacy Westfall: [00:00:00] The extra theoretical the objective is like this “discover the connection and connection” concept, the extra theoretical that’s, right here’s the twist: The extra measurable the small steps must be.

Announcer: [00:00:17] Podcasting from just a little cabin on a hill, that is the Stacy Westfall podcast. Stacy’s objective is straightforward: to show you to know why horses do what they do, in addition to the motion steps for creating clear, assured communication together with your horses.

Stacy Westfall: [00:00:36] Hello, I’m Stacy Westfall, and I assist riders turn out to be assured, talk clearly, and get higher outcomes with their horses. This would be the remaining episode of Season 14, which has been centered totally on the rider’s thoughts. A helpful reality about this podcast is that I set it up in seasons, so there are whole seasons that target the horse’s thoughts, the horse’s physique, the rider’s thoughts, the rider’s physique. Season 15 developing might be one other Q&A season the place I’m going to make use of the voicemail questions that listeners like you’ve got referred to as in and left. You may go away your message by visiting my web site and searching for the Ship Voicemail for Podcast Use button. And right here’s the cope with right now’s episode. I taught a webinar on Saturday and the subject was objective setting and overcoming obstacles. It was offered dwell with slides, nevertheless, I believe you may get 95 p.c of what I offered from the audio-only. What you’ll be able to’t see once you’re listening to the audio is the sensation wheel and a number of the workbook pages, and also you’ll sometimes hear me reference slides as a result of I had visuals going. Nonetheless, if you happen to obtain the free workbook and PDF over on my web site, you’ll be at 100%. So instructing the webinar impressed me to create a goal-setting starter equipment you can get without cost over on my web site. I needed to just remember to might make these items actionable. The equipment features a nine-page goal-setting workbook and a replica of the ever-popular feeling wheel, in addition to an consciousness train that I do myself. And you will discover the video replay of the webinar over there, too. Plus, if you happen to’re an everyday listener, I believe you’re actually going to benefit from the bonus that’s on right here and over there. You keep in mind that little audio clip you simply heard originally of this episode? That’s an audio clip from close to the top of this. And if you happen to’ve listened to Episode 163 and 164 with Suzi, you’ll get an replace in right here about how I’m taking that objective that’s form of theoretical, that concept of exploring the connection in connection, how are you going to take one thing like confidence and make {that a} objective? How do you make one thing like that actionable and measurable? I speak about that on the finish of this podcast. Now, keep in mind to get your downloads and let’s go forward and hear.

Stacy Westfall: [00:03:22] Hey, welcome, everybody. I’m going to get this display screen arrange, and if anyone might sort within the Q&A and let me know if you happen to can see me and listen to me that might be tremendous useful. Yay, you’ll be able to see me. You may hear me. Superb. Okay, so the very first thing it’s good to know is that I’m tremendous enthusiastic about being right here, and the second factor it’s good to know is that I’ve been combating a chilly or one thing all week. So if you happen to see me sipping just a little bit or doing one thing like that, I’m feeling wonderful. In case you’d requested me on Wednesday, was not feeling wonderful on Wednesday, however now I really feel wonderful. I may be utilizing this cough drop tucked in my tooth just a bit bit. I would trip, however please bear with me as a result of I’m tremendous excited to be right here as a result of I haven’t been doing every little thing else that I might have had deliberate, which really suits completely into this webinar. So what I’m going to do proper now, I can see all of you answering and saying that you’re right here and you may see me, you’ll be able to hear me, and I need to know the place you’re from. So if you happen to’re over there within the Q&A sort in the place you’re from, as a result of I’m curious to see. We’ve been getting individuals from everywhere in the world throughout these, which has been tremendous enjoyable to observe, and let me share my display screen when you’re doing that.

Stacy Westfall: [00:04:41] Okay, now you need to be taking a look at my display screen. Okay, we’ve obtained Germany, Western New York, Iowa, Virginia, Michigan, Colorado, one other Colorado, North Carolina, Canada, Michigan, Idaho, Mount Gilead, Ohio. I used to dwell there. I guess you understand that. All types of locations. Oregon, 4 ft of snow, Australia. We are able to see that each one of you’ve got discovered the place to work together with the Q&A. So we’re going to do the interplay with the Q&A. The attention-grabbing factor about having the week off from my commonly scheduled program is that I preserve including issues to this webinar. So I’m going to go quick in order that I can go away just a little bit of additional time on the finish to reply some questions. You may at all times put your questions in as we’re going. They–there’s lots of people on right here, so it might scroll all the way down to the underside. So once I ask once more, don’t really feel dangerous, like placing it in once more, copy-paste it from someplace if you need, you’ll be able to put it in instantly, or you’ll be able to put it in once I’m asking for it. Both approach goes to work completely advantageous for me. And the very first thing I would like you to do is definitely need you to set an intention for this webinar. Did you come to this objective setting and overcoming objections webinar since you’re searching for readability round a selected objective? Are you searching for extra steps? Are you searching for why you’ve gotten caught previously? Like, what’s it you need to stroll away with on the finish of this time? As a result of if you happen to really determine that forward of time, you’re form of telling your mind what to search for through the webinar.

Stacy Westfall: [00:06:20] So, super-secret life hack, it’s just a little bit like once you determine to purchase a automobile and also you begin noticing like, Oh, I used to be going to purchase that automobile, and now you see them all over the place. It’s the way in which your mind works. Let’s leap in. Right this moment, I’m going to cowl objective setting and overcoming objections. I’m going to go over, why set a objective in any respect? I’m going to speak about why individuals keep away from setting them or they cease attempting. We’re going to speak about your dream, my dream. What the heck? Why are we doing this? Obstacles that you understand, obstacles you don’t know, tips on how to flip these obstacles into methods, and how one can work with me in 2022. After which there’s going to be time for an open Q&A. Any person already despatched me a very nice query that I form of needed to cowl, however I wasn’t positive after which it got here in by an e mail and I used to be like, Sure. So I put this bonus in right here. In case you’ve been listening to the podcast–are you a podcast listener? In case you’re a podcast listener sort in sure or no within the Q&A. Are you sure, a listener, no, not a listener? As a result of what I’ve been speaking about is objective setting, and I form of had like just a little mini objective breakdown within the final couple, you understand, a few podcasts in the past. And it’s been a very attention-grabbing journey as a result of I do objective setting quite a bit. So the bonus goes to be like setting objectives, if you happen to’ve obtained lists, how do you measure a sense when you have a sense objective? Like, let’s say you need to be extra assured otherwise you need to be–there’s nearly like a sense that you simply need to have for a objective. I’m going to let you know how I’m working by that on the finish as a result of that’s work I’m doing proper now. Very first thing I would like you to consider is what’s your 2022 objective and the way will you understand if you happen to’ve reached it? What I would like you to consider there’s what’s the objective? Simply be at liberty to sort it in if you need. Be at liberty to say it out loud to the air. Be at liberty to scratch it down on a serviette. Do you’ve got a objective but? It’s January fifteenth, and I need to know if you happen to even have like a selected, measurable objective. Are you extra within the realm of form of a dream? We’re going to speak about that. In order that’s completely advantageous too. One of many issues that takes one thing from a dream–from a dream over to a objective is understanding the way you’re going to measure it.

Stacy Westfall: [00:08:38] So that you’re going to see me give some examples of that. In case you have your workbook, your free workbook that was a free obtain, you’ll be able to really use that workbook to stroll by. And I’ll remind you about that on the finish. However I really need you to have the ability to–to take this concept of the dream, the objective, after which have the ability to break it down into extra measurable steps. And we’ll speak about why. So why set a objective in any respect? You’re right here since you’ve form of form of obtained a cause. Perhaps you’re tremendous sturdy at objective setting and also you simply need to contact up. Perhaps that is your, you understand, try and do it as a result of although you gave it up, like, I don’t know, 10 years in the past or one thing, however the principle cause for setting a objective is that if you happen to purpose at nothing, you’ll hit it each time. I like this quote from Zig Ziglar. Now I like path driving. It–I’ve been very open that path driving is my favourite place to be with a horse. Now I can discover a lot of good issues about a lot of different locations, however I like path driving. I path rode for a really very long time as a baby. That’s what I grew up as a six-year-old with my mother once I first obtained my pony all the way in which up by once I went to varsity path driving on a regular basis. And but, although I spent a great deal of time with my horse I used to be nonetheless in peril lots of the occasions. Like I used to be not staying persistently above what I these days name the security line. So the path driving was giving me some enjoyment, but it surely was leaving me in danger. I couldn’t get my horse persistently out and in of a trailer. I couldn’t at all times persistently cease. In case you’ve heard me discuss, I hit a automobile as soon as popping out of a barrel racing factor, I couldn’t cease once I needed to. I obtained run away with a number of occasions. I had a plan for tips on how to like, do issues one being run away with as a result of it was a recurring factor. So although I used to be driving path driving, I didn’t have a extra particular, path driving safely, path driving no matter. A few of this perhaps was youth, however I need to just remember to know that even when it looks as if it’s one thing like path driving, we might really like begin to break it down much more in order that we are able to make it possible for we’re attaining that. I’ve been ready within the business for a very long time to see individuals lose the dream as a result of they, for instance, wrestle with issues of safety. So I need to make it possible for doesn’t occur to anybody. So why are objectives specifically exhausting to set? Most individuals don’t have an excessive amount of hassle dreaming about what they need to do, however objectives are typically just a little bit more durable to set. I believe one of many foremost causes is very if you happen to’ve ever set a objective and you then’ve not achieved both the objective otherwise you’ve otherwise you felt your self failing alongside the way in which. That’s form of me this week just a little bit. So let me simply let you know completely in the course of real-life occurring proper now I didn’t have on my calendar, Be sick this week in January. So what that did was that got here in and interrupted a plan that I had. What I’ll let you know now could be that just a little later within the podcast, I’m going to speak about emotions and I’m going to speak about the way you deal with your self just a little bit through the course of and what has shifted massively for me. Stacy 2022 versus Stacy ten years in the past. Stacy ten years in the past wouldn’t have been sort to herself throughout this week of being sick as a result of I might have made the objective the precedence and like my well being, my self-care, my approach that I discuss to myself in my head, these wouldn’t have been a excessive precedence. And you understand what occurs in case your objective is then one thing you utilize to beat your self up? It’s not so enjoyable to set objectives as a result of if you happen to’ve ever had a objective and you then, let’s simply say that within the workbook that I–that I gave you guys, it’s obtained a twenty-one-day objective and it’s the method of one thing you apply in a smaller time interval after which you’ll be able to repeat that month after month and also you be taught the larger course of on the smaller scale.

Stacy Westfall: [00:12:55] So for me, all of the issues that I had deliberate this week earlier than I obtained sick, once I obtained sick to a sure degree, I used to be lastly like, Oh my gosh, I’ve to switch the plan. It was a lot simpler for me this yr to switch the plan and to have the ability to see that with out the judgment. So lots of occasions in the course of failing, or perhaps you attempt to attempt to attempt to attempt to attempt to you retain taking actions. Like, let’s say, 10 years in the past, I might have been sick and I might have stored pushing and I might have stored going. And my husband and I even have like tales of ending up on the medical doctors and with like double pneumonia and every kind of issues from not slowing down. As a result of all of those emotions on this sense wheel have been, it was like I used to be feeling like previously 10 years in the past. I might have felt insufficient if I couldn’t do every little thing that was on my plan, I might have felt like I used to be being, you understand, disrespectful or letting anyone down as a result of I had the horse in coaching and I used to be going to must take per week off as a result of I couldn’t cease coughing if I used to be within the barn. And so the method of inspecting like when issues are occurring they usually’re on monitor and it feels wonderful, but it surely’s really taking a look at these occasions once they’re off monitor when it’s failing. These are typically those that cease us from setting the objectives within the first place as a result of in some unspecified time in the future lots of people simply throw their fingers up and go, like, why hassle? It’s simply not going to work out. Or you can begin saying, what am I going to be taught from this expertise? I’m studying tips on how to hearken to my physique. I’m believing one thing totally different, which is perhaps if I handle myself now, I’ll shorten the size of what’s occurring after which I perhaps will really recuperate time that I might know I didn’t previously once I made myself sicker and sicker. So there’s every kind of various issues we are able to discover, like why do I believe I might profit from being imply to myself on this scenario? I do know I did that previously. Why did I do it? So I simply need you to consider if you happen to’ve ever failed earlier than. How is that probably getting in your approach now? As a result of what occurs is these feelings, these emotions that come up like if we’re actually pissed off, that feeling goes to vary the actions that we take. And lots of occasions, particularly once I’m teaching riders, what occurs is lots of us, we’ve got objectives with our horses. Properly, if we’ve got objectives with our horses, then which means there’s some form of action-oriented objective, even when it’s driving X variety of days per week or if it’s attaining a sure factor. There’s a sure period of time and motion that’s going to be concerned in most objectives that we’ve got with horses. However what goes on right here is that I need to discuss–I’m going to go actual fast. I even shortened this up just a little bit extra and obtained it down to 2 slides. I need to let you know why change is uncomfortable and why your mind is immune to it. So right here’s two actually fast slides. The resistance you’re feeling once you set a objective is regular as a result of your prefrontal cortex is accountable for problem-solving. That’s the a part of your mind that’s going to set that objective. It’s going to say, you understand, if by the top of the yr I need to obtain x, y, z with my horse or, in my lifetime, I need to obtain x, y, z. These are a number of the issues I see as you understand, being mandatory steps or at the least steps that if I discover and take, it’s going to steer me elsewhere. The reasoning a part of your mind is the one doing that. Now your regardless of the components of the mind like we are able to–we are able to say it’s the hind mind, the medulla. This–there’s one other a part of your mind. Let’s simply go that easy that’s accountable for survival and this survival a part of your mind is the one which’s really inflicting lots of the resistance lots of occasions. I believe it’s actually attention-grabbing as a result of I simply assume it’s enjoyable to to assume each time my survival mind kicks in, I’m really most likely extra empathetic with my horse. I’m in the identical scenario that the horse tends to be in. You already know, your horse doesn’t have as a lot of this like reasoning, future focus, form of use of their mind as a result of that’s the way in which that they’re constructed. And so each time I fall into the habits that pull me away from my objectives, I’m like, Oh yeah, I completely perceive why my horse is like feeling that approach. As a result of that places me extra into that sympathetic understanding of like, Oh yeah, I’m I’m immune to work at occasions, too. I’m resistant to vary. I’m immune to a few of these issues. So why is change so exhausting? Any sort of change, like incorporating bodily exercise into our routine, if that’s a change for you, can go in opposition to the neural pathways which have turn out to be automated. In order that’s why we have a tendency to return to the default. It’s the change half that’s exhausting. It’s the rewiring of your mind, whether or not you’re attempting to make a brand new weight-reduction plan change or add a bodily exercise or change one thing. That is really not simply you being lazy. It’s not you having an issue with just like the objective that you simply set, it will need to have been the mistaken objective. It’s actually altering behavior patterns. And I believe what’s actually attention-grabbing with riders specifically, individuals with horses, with horse objectives. You are inclined to have the psychological behavior change and the bodily behavior change. So that you’ve obtained the psychological behavior change to cope with. So certainly one of my objectives lately has been calendaring. So once I was doing a objective round writing down a calendar, retaining a calendar, retaining a each day, what I need to do checklist that was extra psychological for me than what I expertise every day with my horses. So there’s the psychological train, which was exhausting to do the psychological train of instructing myself to plan forward, to honor my plan to do these various things. That was a psychological behavior change that got here with some bodily modifications of like following by. However what I’m speaking about with horses is usually you’ve got a bodily behavior change too, that means muscle reminiscence concerned with studying tips on how to do one thing new together with your horse, in addition to the psychological power into altering it. So I simply need you to know as a result of then it may be like, Oh, I perceive why perhaps I’m struggling right here. I like this quote from Brooke Castillo. “Discomfort is the foreign money of your goals.” And to me, simply understanding that helps me perceive that, yeah, I’m most likely going to be uncomfortable at occasions whereas I’m making these modifications. The discomfort of change doesn’t imply I’m off monitor. Good to know.

Stacy Westfall: [00:19:56] So I’ve coated why set a objective in any respect. We need to choose, purpose, we need to go in that route. We talked just a little bit about why individuals keep away from setting it as a result of it feels horrible. In case you really feel such as you’re off monitor and also you aren’t geared up with, like tips on how to deal with these emotions and tips on how to determine what’s off monitor, what’s on monitor. Do I simply throw up my fingers and give up now, January 15, the start of the yr? Do I preserve going? Do I preserve going till June? I’m nonetheless not seeing outcomes like, how lengthy do you retain going? Now let’s discuss just a little bit extra about your dream. So to me, once I’m structuring this, I at all times take into consideration goals as these massive overarching issues, they usually are typically extra imprecise. So we’ll discuss for only a minute about like, what would you try if you happen to knew you couldn’t fail? That is–a few of these issues are typically like, How we are able to discover the dream? I believe it’s attention-grabbing, simply hear to those two totally different phrases to see which one works on your mind right now. What would you try if you happen to knew you couldn’t fail? That’s one option to say it. I really favor the second. What are you prepared to fail at day by day if you happen to knew you’d finally win? No judgment, if you happen to like the primary one higher as a result of, in a approach, they’re each saying the identical factor. However what I can see in my life is the second works for me as a result of then I’m not afraid of the failure that I’m experiencing day by day. After I had that objective to write down out my weekly calendar and honor it precisely as written for seven days in a row, it took me over six months to get to the purpose the place I used to be fairly persistently hitting that. Like, it took me 9 months to get to the place I might actually say, sure, I can completely do that. There was a lot studying, however each time I failed like a month in, two months in, three months in, 4 months in, a failing to have the ability to observe my very own plan for per week. It stored mentioning this spotlight of like, I’ve a selection of how I’m going to deal with myself throughout this failure. However there’s a lot I can be taught whereas I’m failing, I can be taught that I’m overscheduling, I can be taught that I’m ambitiously biting off greater than I can do within per week. I’m studying that perhaps there’s other ways I can prepare issues in order that it really works higher so I can match extra in. There have been so many classes hidden in that failure so long as I didn’t give up. So I haven’t been over within the Q&A for a minute. I’m going to go over there now. I need to know what’s your massive dream now? Keep in mind, these are sometimes form of imprecise. They don’t must be. Typically you’ll be able to have a brilliant clear massive dream. However typically that massive dream is just a little bit extra imprecise. And typically for me personally, I do know that the large dream nearly falls into extra of the “why” class. And I’m going to share mine in only a minute after I’m going examine and see what you’re writing. Numerous podcast listeners. Okay. End setting the objectives. You’re on monitor with me. Objective, get my new horse and myself assured, no extra spooking. Objective, really feel assured driving in all environments. Objective, work with my quarter horse on the reining and have the ability to take some classes on her. Present her as soon as this summer season. The place is the workbook? The workbook I’ll–you’ll be able to both–you’ll be able to click on and get it on the house web page of my web site proper now, it says obtain workbook as a result of it will get emailed to you. I haven’t discovered tips on how to cross you guys a PDF throughout certainly one of these items. If anyone is aware of that, be at liberty to ship me data on how that might work. However I do know if you happen to ship me an e mail, I can reply with it or on my dwelling web page of my web site you’ll be able to sort in your e mail deal with and it’ll kick it to you that approach. So flying lead modifications. Actually sketchy, what I actually need to perceive extra tips on how to educate your ranch horse to neck rein. Measurable progress with my uninteresting, quiet five-year-old and recording the miscellaneous magic too. You’ve been listening to the podcast. How I set objectives for my college students, I really take them by this course of. So the twenty one–the workbook is definitely one which I work by with them. So we set objectives collectively utilizing actually the identical instruments that I’m giving to you want that. Okay, cantering on the seaside. OK, heaps and many objectives. Working equitation, path driving with my Mustang, higher relationship with my delicate mare, every kind of issues. Have the ability to lope for quarter-hour. Enhance softness in lead modifications. So many various objectives.

Stacy Westfall: [00:19:56] Okay. Targets. Goals. So for me, I’m going to share a few my larger like, they’re my dream. They’re my overarching “why”. The dream, that’s form of imprecise for me. Two of mine, you’ll be able to hear how they’re totally different than objectives. Study all I can about horses. You imply, offers you an concept. Be an instance of what’s attainable. So these are a few the issues that form of drive me ahead. However you’ll be able to hear that they’re not very measurable, proper? So what’s attention-grabbing, this picture form of comes from an expression of the, be taught all I can with horses, proper? However this accomplishment with Roxy driving bareback and bridleless was constructed on a lot smaller steps. So the way in which I take a look at it, we’ve obtained the dream, we’ve obtained the yearly objective, we’ve obtained month-to-month objectives, weekly objectives, and each day actions. Let’s take a look at one just a little bit extra particularly. So certainly one of my more moderen goals that if you happen to’ve been following me for some time, you’ll know I’m in the course of a dream. Purchase, increase, and prepare a foal from Final Probability Corral. Final yr, my 2021 objective was–there was just a little little bit of a imprecise piece of it. Path trip quite a bit. It was just a little extra particular as in just like the variety of days wasn’t set, but it surely was like day by day that the paths are secure. I didn’t need to trip with sure driving circumstances on the market. And a way more particular one was, present at one dwell horse present. So originally of the yr like this, I made out these objectives. I knew how I used to be going to trace the path rides. I knew how I used to be going to determine what days have been secure, what days weren’t. I knew that the horse present was going to occur quite a bit additional out, so I didn’t schedule the horse present originally. I knew I used to be going to take a look at September, October and form of have that in thoughts. I used to be going to ensure I left myself some decisions that far out. I knew that to succeed in the objective of displaying one dwell horse present with Presto, I knew I used to be going to trailer to new locations and I knew I used to be going to wish to plan for that dangerous climate once I was doing the path driving half. What occurred for me is I might see a number of the obstacles. These are what I simply gave you. I simply gave you obstacles that means like, how is he going to behave at new locations? What am I going to do with dangerous climate? Any–an impediment is something that seems like these phrases: difficult, problem, problem, fear, hassle, complication, mess, snag. My chilly this week or no matter that is. So, not feeling effectively. These are obstacles. After which we get to determine how we’re going to beat these. Some you might plan forward for. You most likely may very well be like, Hey, I might need a sick week someday throughout 2022. You can plan forward for that or when it turns into apparent, you then get an opportunity to learn the way you’re going to stroll by it then. So even if you happen to don’t know all of them, you’re going to truly be making your map. So one of many explanation why my calendaring objective of having the ability to observe that calendar, precisely one of many causes it took so many months was as a result of I used to be uncovering all of the issues I didn’t know. It was not attainable for me to write down down every little thing the primary week of January that I used to be going to must do to have the ability to obtain the calendaring objective. I couldn’t say precisely the date that it could come to fruition. I might, nevertheless, say I’m going to do that each single day of 2021. And that’s what I did. That’s how I stored getting the traction. So let’s return to Presto for a minute. One factor I didn’t know once I began hauling him as a result of he’d been hauled in some however not hauled and ridden and he was getting actually labored up once I was hauling him to locations. So my preliminary concept of how a lot hauling I used to be going to must do needed to change. I needed to plan additional journeys. I really needed to do work round accepting the concept I used to be not going to trip a number of the occasions once I took him locations as a result of he was so labored up that I might really feel I used to be going to be pushing on one thing the place I’ve obtained a–I’ve obtained a security line that I don’t need to cross and I received’t go someplace and simply get on and trip simply because I ought to, or simply as a result of I’m Stacy Westfall and I ought to have the ability to dare to get on no matter, each time. No, it doesn’t work like that for me. And I might see how upset he was, and I made a decision groundwork was going to be a greater in these conditions. After which I needed to do the workaround. Are individuals going to guage me if I present up at this place and I determine to not trip? So I needed to look at my ideas and my judgments about what I’m making it imply if my horse is doing this. As a result of lots of occasions we get it just a little bit snarled.

Stacy Westfall: [00:29:58] Are you able to guys see how simple it could be for my horse to be performing up and make it about me? So that is the work that I used to be having to do whereas I used to be in the course of the yr. Once more, I’m going to say it. I discussed it just a little bit earlier, however I believe the additional problem you’ve got when you’ve got objectives together with your horses, is there are two of you. That’s why within the podcast and lots of locations the place I educate, I exploit what I got here up with and referred to as the 4 sq. mannequin. The concept you’ve obtained the rider’s thoughts and the horse’s thoughts, you’ve obtained the rider’s physique and the horse’s physique. So I simply need to remind you, be sort to your self. As a result of for me, with that objective, with Presto, there was me making the plan, displaying up, doing the work, after which there’s me deciphering him and the way in which he’s displaying up. And you can begin to see how that may get just a little bit difficult for individuals at occasions as a result of they get just a little bit hung up. And like, what does it imply if I’m off monitor? That might simply be in your personal thoughts like that. However what if–what does it imply if my horse, you understand, appears like one thing’s going backwards? It’s not going fairly as effectively. Like, you’ve obtained to be actually conscious that there’s lots of these totally different items, and I’ve damaged it into these 4 segments simply so you’ll be able to just remember to step in and double-check. Like, is that this one thing that your physique wants extra time to be educated with? Do you simply not know what to do together with your left hand in that second? Is that this in your thoughts? Is that this in your horse’s thoughts? Is that this an emotional factor that’s inflicting him to do that? Is that this a bodily factor in his physique? Is he simply weak? And so he can’t canter for quarter-hour as a result of he’s simply not bodily match for it. So you must work out this journey as you’re on it and be sort to your self. What would you be prepared to assume and really feel on the way in which to attaining your dream? I like that I simply seemed over on the Q&A and somebody wrote, I hate, I hate writing, however I actually need to do that as a result of I need to attain my objective. I like that you simply stated that as a result of I’ve despatched out an e mail just lately sharing some suggestions that anyone despatched they usually have been like, I used to be very immune to utilizing this workbook. I took a number of days, I allowed myself to select it up, put it down, write. I assumed, I’m by no means going to have the ability to do it. Oh my gosh, it’s so value doing this work as a result of again in that 4 sq. mannequin, you’re engaged on the stuff in your thoughts. And day by day of the week, it doesn’t matter if it’s snowing out. It doesn’t matter if it’s too sizzling, too chilly, too one thing. Even on the times that I used to be sick this week, I felt like I used to be doing good work on my mindset as a result of the way in which I handled myself once I was sick goes to point out up in the way in which that I deal with myself once I’m setting objectives with my horse. It’ll present up with how I’m going to answer my life normally. So stretching your self and placing issues in writing, and I agree it’s it’s exhausting and I face that resistance on a regular basis. It’s so value it as a result of once more, you’re–you’re altering the way in which that your mind appears at issues. And there’s a lot of research on the market that writing, like, particularly bodily writing in a journal on a bit of paper, is among the pathways that modifications some issues. It helps you alter issues.

Stacy Westfall: [00:33:22] So what would you be prepared to assume? What would you be prepared to really feel? The rationale I convey this up is as a result of lots of occasions after we’re taking a look at, it is a success story and don’t panic if it appears like lots of phrases on the display screen as a result of I’m going to interrupt it down for you. A variety of occasions we need to know tips on how to get to the success story, however we form of would love anyone to point out us the trail the place it felt good the entire approach. I’ve shared extra just lately within the final yr on my podcast and issues about a few of my bodily objectives, like I needed to have the ability to run a 5K a few years in the past. Final yr in 2021, I needed to run a 10k. A variety of the explanations, the primary cause I’ve these bodily health objectives is due to wanting to point out up sturdy to trip my horses. So it’s actually attention-grabbing, although, once I take into consideration the bodily health objectives, I believe it was bodily exhausting and mentally exhausting to go on the market and do it, however I obtained stronger from the problem. I believe the problem is to rewire the way you take a look at failure, the way you take a look at these issues that really feel like they’re setting you again. So this is among the college students in my programs. And Suki wrote, my understanding has been deepened. Taking a look at failures as one thing that occurs commonly fully makes the quantity of frustration I really feel as I wrestle with the outdated and the brand new ideas, it makes it make sense. I can see how understanding and acceptance of failure frees my thoughts to be current and open to failure as a stepping stone to new understandings and higher communication between my horse and I. As I settle for failure as a part of the journey I don’t expertise frustration, the anger, reactionary sort, practically as typically. After I do get pissed off by failure I recuperate extra rapidly as a result of I do know to anticipate it and I do know the place to go for assist. Isn’t it tremendous cool you can really take a few of these important, pissed off, irritated, livid, indignant, resentful, nugatory, inferior, insufficient, you’ll be able to take a few of these and you are able to do this rider’s thoughts, this psychological work round this, and you might really present up as a unique particular person. And I believe it’s a superpower to displaying up together with your horse in the way in which that you simply present up and also you’re extra forgiving to your self, which sarcastically, Do you know that once you present up pissed off with your self, you’re simply form of radiating frustration? And once you radiate that frustration, your horse results in that bubble they usually’re simply form of like, I don’t assume I need to be right here and this isn’t going effectively. So, a lot of this work is efficacious to do as a result of it impacts even straight once you’re working with the horses. I put this quote in right here as a result of till I used to be placing collectively this webinar, I didn’t notice who stated the quote. I had heard it earlier than and liked it, however I actually, actually assume that lots of occasions we’ve got massive objectives, massive goals. A variety of occasions I believe that we–that is so true. Most individuals overestimate what they’ll do in a single yr and underestimate what they’ll do in 10.

Stacy Westfall: [00:37:02] So let’s return to that objective that I had with my calendar. You already know, once I set the objective to observe my calendar in my thoughts in January, once I set that objective, I used to be like, not an enormous deal. I imply, I’m going to observe it. It’s going to be just a little little bit of rinse and repeat. I’ll determine it out. I didn’t put a time-frame on it, however I undoubtedly didn’t assume it was going to take like six months to get to the purpose of just like the breakthrough that I did at six months after which 9 months to get to the subsequent breakthrough. I didn’t know that forward of time, I assumed I used to be going to determine it out a lot sooner as a result of I overestimated what I might do within per week. I stored overestimating how a lot I might accomplish in per week, however I’ve recognized that that consistency issues. It issues a lot once you’re working with the horses. It’s that consistency over time. I do know lacking this week my mind needs to freak out and inform me I ought to simply throw every little thing out and never even hassle, however I do know that on the finish of this yr, this one week received’t have made an enormous distinction. If I can preserve myself mentally on monitor and nonetheless mine this for the knowledge that’s there. Underestimating what they’ll do in 10 years resonates so strongly with me as a result of that bareback bridleless trip picture that I confirmed you just a little bit earlier, that was 10 years from the time I obtained run off with–with my horse. After I first thought of driving–I really was in a halter, however I used to be interested by heading towards bridleless. It was 10 years from that run off expertise to me attaining the bareback and bridleless. So I believe when you consider that massive dream or the large “why” and you then’re breaking it down, I would like you to proceed to make it possible for dance of the large “why”. Study every little thing I can about horses be an instance of what’s attainable the most important “why” that you’ve. That’s just a little bit extra imprecise. Make it possible for your objectives for this yr line up and assist it, as a result of so simple as that’s, simply ensuring that that’s going to form of line up and assist it, it’s wonderful how a lot traction you may get over time.

Stacy Westfall: [00:39:21] Going to examine the Q&An actual fast. Sure. So with the sensation wheel I can make it possible for that’s put someplace the place you’ll be able to see it. I’ll let you know this, although. I like the sensation wheel as a result of I like how fairly it’s displayed. I even have a number of–if you happen to simply Google like emotions, you may get a lot of printouts which have a lot of totally different clusters, and the printouts which might be in columns aren’t as fairly because the wheel. However lots of occasions the printouts and columns have much more phrases on it and lots of what I do, whether or not it’s utilizing the sensation wheel– so within my–within the–the driving bundle course–like it is a workbook. That is the Prepare Your Personal Horse With Confidence workbooks. It’s in there. And one of many issues that’s in there’s that feeling wheel. Excuse me whereas I cough. So there are undoubtedly locations you will discover it, and I’d get actual acquainted with the totally different phrases. One of many causes I encourage riders to do it’s because lots of occasions individuals don’t perceive how they’ve just some go-to emotions that they apply quite a bit. It’s so cool to Google a bunch of feeling phrases and work out some new ones you need to attempt on. And I’m going to share these with you in only a minute once I share a number of the work I’m doing on my 2022 objectives. So lengthy story quick, even when I don’t get the wheel proper up as a result of I’m attempting to assume the place I’m going to place it, however even when I don’t get that proper as much as you, what I would like you to know is you’ll be able to Google an inventory of the phrases and you will discover feeling phrase lists which might be tremendous useful for studying how to have the ability to establish and give you lots of these totally different phrases. It’s certainly one of my favourite issues that I do. So shat I’ve coated thus far is all of the stuff in orange and so we’ve talked just a little bit about like why set the objective, why of why individuals keep away from setting them, why they cease attempting. Understanding your massive “why” is that dream half, like form of remembering why, as a result of the dream to me drives it. After which keep in mind, proper now you’re going to write down down some obstacles. You’re not going to know all of them. The work is setting the objective, writing down the obstacles you understand, going out and taking motion–that is all outlined within the workbook and I’ll pull up the workbook in a minute–It’s all lined up in there the place you then go and also you begin taking motion and you then go, Oh, right here’s one other impediment. I’m going to be sick this week. Didn’t see that coming. How am I going to regulate for that? What’s my technique? How am I going to deal with that? Can I nonetheless make this handy not directly?

Stacy Westfall: [00:42:11] I’m going to speak for only a minute about how one can work with me in 2022, if that’s one thing you’re interested by doing. Then we’re going into the Q&A and that little bonus I discussed originally. So when you have driving objectives, so when you have objectives that contain driving your horse this yr, I’m not–I’m not specializing in groundwork on this, I’m specializing in driving. I might help with this system that I’ve created the place on this driving bundle I’m displaying you tips on how to be efficient together with your rein aids. I’m displaying you tips on how to successfully use your leg aids along with your rein aids. I’m instructing you tips on how to perceive the method from the horse’s standpoint. I speak about it like horses transfer from kindergarten up by highschool, as much as school. I clarify how even the identical rein aids look just a little bit totally different of their presentation. A variety of the confusion that individuals have come from the truth that they’re not viewing it just like the horse is definitely going by modifications as they perceive extra. And I offer you instruments like this workbook that I used to be simply speaking to you about. I offer you these instruments the place you’ll be able to perceive your–the position of ideas. My focus in February goes to be all on emotions and ideas, and I’m going to show lots of that within the course in February with lots of dwell lessons as a result of I would like you to know the position of your ideas as you’re working with the horse. So the driving bundle contains my two masterclasses, and once I was scrolling by, there was anyone over right here who was like, I need to obtain flying lead modifications, however I don’t know the way–I don’t know all of the steps and tips on how to trip it. So what’s attention-grabbing is that is such an entire program as a result of first I made the Full Information to Enhancing Steering and Instructing Neck Reining. After which I made Establishing Assortment and Introducing Lead Modifications they usually hook proper collectively. They transfer from one to the opposite. Then I put, Whoa, after which I’m doing all these dwell calls, I’m doing lifetime entry to those programs, 30-day money-back assure, dwell group teaching a number of occasions a month, the Prepare Your Personal Horse with Confidence workbook, video critiques within there, so that you get to see college students and also you get to be a pupil who’s getting your movies reviewed. And the explanation I believe it’s attention-grabbing is as a result of inside particularly–as a result of Jennifer, no Jackie requested concerning the lead modifications. It’s so step-by-step I really made that course by having college students undergo it. So that you really watch college students prepare their very own horses. I didn’t need you to have the ability to say, Yeah however that’s Stacy on her horse doing it. You really watch college students coaching their very own horses. It’s tremendous cool. And also you’ll see individuals getting their movies reviewed this yr in 2022 inside driving bundle, people who find themselves engaged on it, so you might see the widespread issues. It’s dwell and occurring already. That is one other piece of pupil suggestions. Laurie stated, That is simply what I wanted for this winter. She’s going to seek out it actually helpful in the summertime too, however she simply despatched this in. Accountability to step exterior my consolation zone, to courageous the chilly and be extra per my coaching, and work with Gracie. She’s in there, she’s taking part. Extra pupil suggestions. The audio trip guides have been invaluable as I like having your teaching in my ear. So inside there, I’ve obtained these items you’ll be able to really obtain like–like little podcasts and I’m teaching you driving by the sample. So I’m reminding you don’t contact the within rein, to the neck proper now. Are you leaning? She’s additionally loved the three Zoom calls that she’d attended at that time, realized a lot. The questions that she has are being answered within there. That’s what I’m doing. I’m additionally so enthusiastic about doing this as a result of I actually need to get individuals taking motion, and I do know that with the 4 sq. mannequin, I do know with the rider’s thoughts, the rider’s physique, altering your muscle reminiscence, the horse’s thoughts, the horse’s physique, the horse going like, who’re you and why are you utilizing new strategies right now? I do know that that is one thing that takes a while, so I’m committing to displaying up within right here and training individuals dwell contained in the driving bundle each month in 2022, a number of occasions a month. And I used to be like, How can I get individuals to take part extra? So I created this way in there the place you’ll be able to submit your questions, your movies, and I’m really rewarding individuals who take part by watching the programs and taking part, they’re going to earn entries to win this saddle, which I believe is loopy cool. I additionally assume it exhibits that I’m all in on getting you guys outcomes. Now we’re on the half the place the workbook, reminder if you need it, you’ll be able to leap over to my web site Stacy Westfall. There’s an orange button that claims, obtain the workbook. You may go there and do it proper then mechanically. It’s a very wonderful guide. I’m going to undergo ane reply this. I’m tempted to drag it up proper now, however I form of don’t need to take the time proper now so perhaps if we’ve got just a little bit on the finish. However completely get it, it’s self-explanatory, you’ll be able to stroll down by it. And I believe the good factor to recollect concerning the workbook is that it’s a 21-day factor, and each time you undergo it, you’re going to get higher at doing it. It’s going to turn out to be a behavior. It’s the identical construction that I exploit for my yearly objectives, but it surely’s damaged down right into a smaller objective as a result of I believe once you see it working within that twenty-one day interval, you’ll perceive the speculation so you’ll be able to broaden it to the yr or you’ll be able to contract it down. And I’m going to let you know in only a minute how I’m utilizing it.

Stacy Westfall: [00:48:08] That is the place the questions you’ve got about your objectives and the questions you’ve got about obstacles,that is the time to sort them in right here as a result of I might be answering them. However I need to make it possible for I get to the query that was despatched in forward of time. Right here’s the query. It says from the e-mail, it stated, I’m trying ahead to Saturday’s goal-setting webinar. Thanks for providing this. I’ve one query slash curiosity and curiosity about listening to extra concerning the objective you talked about in your half 2 current podcast about creativity. It’s more durable to quantify, however perhaps so essential to the enjoyment we’ve got with our horses. I like your curiosity. Hold it coming. Thanks once more, Catherine. I needed to offer you guys–and if you happen to’re if you happen to haven’t listened to the podcast, you’ll be able to go and obtain that anyplace. You may go on the web site and you may you are able to do that. And it’s actually form of cool since you hear me speaking with a pal and unpacking like, Oh, there’s–I’m hitting some form of a wall. So I need to discuss you thru just a little little bit of that as a result of lots of occasions individuals are like, OK, you’re making this make sense as a result of I’m hitting one thing related. What I went by was I sat all the way down to set my objectives for 2022 and I observed a sense of resistance to one of many objectives that I wrote down. And the objective that I wrote down was to get my silver medal with Willow. So what I needed to do was I needed to acknowledge there was a sense of resistance. I might’ve simply written the objective down on a bit of paper and stored going. However lots of occasions we don’t attain our objectives as a result of we’re not doing this course of proper right here. Like that is what I did. I assumed, Why am I having that resistance? You really hear me discuss it–discuss by it with Suzi as a result of I believe typically you really want anyone that can assist you bounce issues forwards and backwards typically if you happen to hit this. That’s what I’m going to be doing inside a number of the teaching calls contained in the driving bundle. We’re going to begin doing thought work on a few of these, the place we’re speaking by these issues. What I noticed was I wanted to reply the query, What am I making it imply? This silver medal. Why do I’ve the objective of the silver medal? Why did I set it in any respect? What else do I need to do if it’s not the silver medal, what else? That is attention-grabbing. After I answered the query, what else? I needed to then additionally reply in my very own–That is what I did I used to be like, how are these two objectives the identical? The objective that looks as if it’s totally different than the silver medal, how are they totally different? So that is the deeper dive that I took into it. I observed the resistance. I requested myself the query Why do I’ve that objective? Suzi helped me make clear quite a bit in that podcast that perhaps I had simply set that objective as a result of it’s the subsequent rung on the ladder, that means there’s a system in dressage and you’re employed your approach up by. And that actually resonated with me. That made me like, Oh, yeah, like that. Yeah, I imply, I used to be like, I did my bronze, subsequent comes silver. That’s what you do. Now, what that freed me as much as notice is, what am I making it imply? What I used to be making it imply was I shouldn’t change a objective as soon as I’ve that thought. As soon as I’ve the considered that, I shouldn’t change it. I don’t need to be a quitter. Am I quitting? I needed to do thought workaround like quitting versus pivoting, altering, permitting myself to vary, permitting myself to know whether or not or not I even actually needed that. After all, I might power myself by one thing. It’s really not going to be a brilliant nice expertise for me or my horse, but it surely’s attainable. However I would like I don’t need to function like that, so I’ve to do that work of getting clear. What else do I would like? You heard me say, I would like creativity. I would like exploration. How are these the identical? How is that this like artistic concept objective the identical as what I’ve been doing, so I noticed I’ve been exploring totally different disciplines, I’ve been doing the exploration. I’ve been going to a number of exhibits. The creativity is the piece that felt prefer it was just a little bit extra misplaced. And I additionally stated I’ve given myself throughout the top of January to love, work out how I’m going to measure this creativity factor. What’s it that I’m searching for right here if it’s not like one thing tremendous crystal clear, like my silver medal objective? So how are they the identical? I can see a number of the exploration, for positive. Perhaps not fairly as a lot creativity. There’s been some creativity in how I’ve reached my dressage objectives. What’s totally different? The primary factor I’ve give you that’s totally different between what I’ve executed in the previous couple of years with my objectives that have been closely associated to exhibits, one of many greatest variations is I’ve been measuring my objectives with present attendance. You heard me say it a minute in the past with Presto. So then I come again to this and I’m going, OK, my yearly objective is one thing round–discover the query marks? It’s one thing round discover the connection and connection concept at a deeper degree. Okay. That sounds just a little bit like a dream. Are you able to hear the way it sounds just a little bit prefer it’s floating up there? So then it’s like, however how can I make this actionable and measurable? How might I take this dreamy feeling factor that’s not crystal clear, like simply go to the subsequent rung of the ladder, how can I take that and make it actionable? So I do know I’m going to be taking a look at month-to-month, weekly, and each day. And the extra clear I can get on that, the higher. Right here’s one thing I do know from previous expertise, just like the expertise I gained from doing my calendaring objective and fail. You guys have been going by your life and ensure you keep in mind when you’ve got success in a single space of your life, like calendaring or weight reduction or train or wholesome consuming, or regardless of the totally different decisions you’ve made. If there’s an space you’ve got gained ability in don’t be afraid to crisscross that with the horses. So I occur to know that if I’m going to do that, I have to. The extra theoretical the objective is, like this discover the connection and connection concept. The extra theoretical that’s–right here’s the twist–the extra measurable the small steps must be. Let’s go backwards. Let’s take a look at the each day motion. So a each day motion the place I might measure one thing like confidence, like connection, like relationship. One concept for having the ability to measure that might be to journal each day concerning the discoveries I made. Right here’s what I found January 1st. Right here’s what I found January 2nd. If I do this 300 and sixty 5 days, I assure I’m going to have a unique outlook on relationship connection, regardless of the phrases are. Creativity, confidence, any of these are going to be explored extra from that exercise.

Stacy Westfall: [00:55:19] Now, once I take a look at it, I’ve been doing lots of stuff with horses for lots of years. I do know one of many key issues right here can also be going to be scheduling my horse time and altering my schedule each week. As a result of the problem of getting a extra theoretical objective, like exploring relationship and connection is that it appears like you might skip it and perhaps it’ll nonetheless work as a result of how a lot time does it take? I imply, you would possibly know the way a lot time it takes to love, go prepare for a horse present, but it surely’s extra fuzzy than that. So perhaps it doesn’t take as a lot time. I believe the reverse is true. I believe once you’re exploring relationship, if you wish to discover relationship, take into consideration individuals who need to do this once they’re courting as a result of they need to get married. Does it take extra time? It takes time to develop and discover relationship. So this can most likely find yourself being a really time and journaling-oriented goal-setting measurable factor. Now I can go away myself flexibility so I can say one thing like my month-to-month objective can be to select an space of curiosity. So perhaps that–perhaps that fills my creativity want. Perhaps my creativity exhibits up within the issues that I choose on a month-to-month foundation. However I do must have issues which might be going to anchor it right into a each day and a weekly and I do know this from previous expertise on setting objectives, and that is how I do know that I’m going to have the ability to take one thing like exploring relationship and connection and have the ability to make it rather more measurable.

Stacy Westfall: [00:56:58] I actually hope that helps reply the query. I’m going to leap over right here and undergo a few of these–a few of these questions. Sure. Any person’s like I screenshotted the sensation wheel on my iPad. Nice concept, Lisa. I noticed the sensation wheel earlier. It’s beautiful. Now I would like one. How do you overcome nerves? I’m good at training, however competitors my nerves get the perfect of me. Oh, I assure. Let’s, let’s see if I can–let me return to this. You’ve obtained to determine a few of these questions, like, what am I making it imply? What am I making this present imply? As a result of for me, for positive, just like the present nerves, it’s like, Am I going to appear to be a idiot? You already know, is, is blah blah blah going to occur? Is so and so going to observe? Like, there’s so many, there’s so a lot of these items that once you begin gaining consciousness of how your–what–what am I making this present imply? Since you’re saying like, my apply at dwelling is okay, however I’m going to the competitors my nerves–begin chasing down the nerves. Begin writing down the sentiments in your physique. My fingers are sweating. My abdomen is tight. I couldn’t eat. My respiratory is shallow. Begin doing the work round tying collectively these emotions. My shoulders roll ahead. I can’t assume clearly. After which you can begin unraveling them and check out to determine the place they’re coming from. Okay, I’m going to take a deep breath. Okay that makes me my ideas flare up like a hearth. And now I noticed that I’m actually nervous as a result of, you understand, of who the decide is or who’s watching. Or, you understand, am I going to have the ability to do higher than subsequent time? Begin chasing these down as a result of it’s these questions that I’ve put again up on the display screen right here which might be going to be key to you determining the place these emotions are coming from. Okay. How do I slender objectives down? I’ve some massive objectives. Enhance, well being, spend time with my horse, higher time mom, however–after which below these are 100 objectives. Okay, I’m going to give up resisting the urge and I’m going to do it. Let me pull this up for only a minute. Right here’s that workbook that I used to be simply telling you about. So what you’re going to seek out on this workbook is you’re going to seek out my concepts on these goal-setting issues after which I would like–I offer you some breakdown of like–like, I offer you an instance. So like for–let’s simply seize your, you understand, spend time with my horse. That one is usually a calendaring objective. And would you be prepared to do what I did? Would you be prepared to do it each calendar, each single week for the yr to attempt to be taught what it’s good to study calendaring? Would you give you the option–would you calendar I’m going to be with my horse today every week, this period of time every week and on Sunday I’m going to write down down how I’m going to place that in. So that you begin doing it and you then begin noticing, I didn’t present up on Tuesday for my horse once I stated I used to be going to. Why didn’t I? So that you begin unpacking and figuring this out. These are the way you begin to flip these obstacles. And I offer you examples that come from precise college students in right here. You’re going to write down down and each time you undergo these, lots of these obstacles, that’s what you’re going to begin determining the way you’re going to make a plan. May very well be one thing so simple as a restoration plan. After I miss a day, that is how I’m going to deal with myself. That is what I discover I’m doing. I’m beating myself up. I’m being imply, I’m giving up. That is what I’m going to do in another way subsequent week, tomorrow, no matter that’s. And you then’re going to begin to acquire some momentum to understanding like, take a look at a few of these, a few of these issues. It says, if I miss a day, I’m tempted to skip one other one. I’m afraid I’ll make a mistake and mess up my horse. These are a number of the obstacles that you simply’ll begin developing with. And what’s fascinating about it’s lots of occasions we expect that the obstacles are issues like, I don’t know tips on how to bodily cue my horse for a change. Properly, heck yeah, that’s true. That might undoubtedly be attainable. I’m going to cease sharing, however that is like the ultimate like you might–you might go discover this. We are able to–we are able to obtain. I’m going to share this different display screen once more. Actual fast. Whoops. Not with that button I’m not. You need to just remember to preserve doing the work and displaying up day after day as a result of these obstacles start to level you in the direction of your widespread ideas and customary motion issues. So if you happen to don’t know tips on how to do a lead change, that’s the place you would possibly have to be taught the steps by steps. However if you happen to’re not displaying as much as execute the steps, that may be in your thoughts. In order that’s why the–the physique–like what does the horse’s physique must do to create a lead change? The place does my physique must be? What does my horse have to know? What do I want to know? These are technical issues which might be in like my lead change course. In order that they’re technical issues that you will discover the solutions to. You then’re going to seek out out why you’re not displaying as much as do the work if that’s the place you’re struggling. So it’s actually all about unpacking all of those. After which Jolie, if you happen to’re actually struggling, lots of occasions get traction on one objective. Get traction or one objective in a twenty-one-day interval. Like simply do it with time spend or simply determine the way you’re going to measure no matter that’s. Like, let’s do time spent together with your horse. Simply work on that one, as a result of right here’s the large ability that I can’t even like let you know how superior it’s. As soon as you determine how to do that in a single space–it may very well be retaining your workplace clear. It may very well be like retaining your kitchen cupboards, you understand, orderly or what. It doesn’t matter, like these objectives, if you happen to conquer one space that doesn’t even look like it’s associated, you’ll acquire traction in different areas due to the abilities that you simply be taught.

Stacy Westfall: [01:03:09] Okay, I see anyone else is like, I don’t actually have like a theme. I’ve like attend a clinic, path trip a few occasions, desensitize with tarps. Do I want a yearly theme? How do I discover it? To start with, no, you don’t must have a yearly theme, however you’ll be able to put all of them collectively. Like you might write down attend clinics, path trip a few occasions per week, do extra desensitizing with tarps and umbrella. You may simply on one facet of paper you might simply write down all these issues after which you can begin simply on the opposite facet, like why? Why do you need to attend a clinic? Why would you like a path trip two occasions per week? Why do you need to desensitize with the tarp? Why do you need to desensitize with an umbrella? What are you going to make it imply if you happen to accomplish this? What are you going to make it meanif you don’t? And what’ll occur is you’ll begin to uncover why you need these items after which it’s possible you’ll or might not have a theme. Like there’s been years the place I’ve solely been actual form of goal-oriented with it and there’s different occasions that I’ve had this theme felt like extra of the motive force. I actually do each on a regular basis now as a result of I like the way it feels. I really feel like I have to do many various issues with my horse. Okay, Jill, you’re within the bundle. You’re like, I’ve watched quite a bit. I really feel like I want to take action many various issues with my horses. How do I incorporate it? Sure, the workbook contained in the course is the Prepare Your Horse with Confidence workbook and the each day work behind that workbook, if you happen to might check out that proper now within the subsequent few weeks or no matter, February I’m going to, I’m going to steer you guys by that. And it’s very purposeful on understanding that the concept it appears like a lot. Like these are some ideas that we’re having which might be going to affect us other ways, and I’m going to point out you tips on how to break it down step-by-step. In order that’s February’s work. So January’s work has been about like evaluating, determining the place you might be, setting your objectives. February’s work goes to be very centered on getting you guys conscious every day.

Stacy Westfall: [01:05:08] So thanks guys a lot. It was tremendous enjoyable to return and be part of you. Thanks for tolerating my stuffiness and my occasional muting of the microphone whereas I used to be coughing. I’m so grateful that you simply spent the time right here with me. Be sure to get the workbook. I do know it’s work to do it, however you’ll be able to rely it. You can make just a little guidelines. You can be like, I did that. However what’s so humorous is you might begin altering the wiring in your mind. You can begin altering the way in which that you consider objective setting. And I’m telling you, it’s these little incremental issues like exploring the resistance. I nonetheless have resistance to going out and dealing my horses some days. I’m not like Mary Poppins, blissful over right here the entire time, however I’m going over to do it. Like, typically I’m going like, I don’t really feel like working my horses right now, however I’m going out and I do it as a result of I do know that me three months from now could be going to be blissful that I’ve put within the time that I did. So thanks guys for spending the time with me right now, and I’ll discuss to you once more in an upcoming name.

Stacy Westfall: [01:06:13] I do know that this has been just a little bit longer episode than what I’ve been placing out just lately. I hope you loved it, and I hope you have been impressed to take motion. Go over to my web site and obtain the workbook and the PDF. Particularly if, like me, the climate is dangerous otherwise you’re not feeling nice. These actions could be a number of the issues that preserve you going, and the very last thing I need to share with you right here is from a listener. I referenced it in that recording, and here’s what Terry wrote. Completely satisfied New 12 months, Stacy. I’m sitting at my desk right now, New 12 months’s Day, working by the goal-setting packet. I liked the webinar you hosted yesterday and I’m so excited to be working with you by way of the driving bundle. I’ve to say that I’ve not had excellent success previously with objective setting. Your current podcasts and yesterday’s webinar helped make clear for me why that’s. The very first thing I caught myself saying is I’m not good at objective setting. After listening to podcast Episode 161, The Energy of I Don’t Know How I’ve modified my self-talk. Each time I catch myself pondering I’m not good at, I modify that self-talk to, I’m new to or I’m studying tips on how to. This transformation in pondering is stuffed with grace and gentleness. After I sat down to finish the objectives packet, my preliminary thought was to give up or fairly do it in my head, not on paper. Paper is so exhausting. However after your goal-setting webinar, I discovered new motivation. It’s taken me two full days to finish it and lots of placing it down, strolling away, deep thought, soul looking form of stuff. As I muddled by it and got here to the obstacles/abilities web page, my thought was, Properly, how on earth do I do know the ability? That’s why it’s an impediment. Even so, I dedicated to giving it a attempt, and to my astonishment, I used to be in a position to devise a ability for each impediment I wrote down. My theme for the yr is religion with braveness. This train helped present me I can place confidence in myself. I’m competent and succesful, and once I don’t have the ability or skill to perform one thing, I do have the power to discover a path ahead. This has been such an eye-opening expertise for me. I’m trying ahead to seeing who I’m on the finish of the yr, however I’m additionally trying ahead to every step alongside the way in which. Thanks on your dedication to serving to others have a really blessed new yr. Terry S. Terry, you might be so welcome. I’m honored to be a part of Terry’s journey and yours as effectively. Thanks for listening, and I’ll discuss to you once more within the subsequent episode.

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